Sabado, Mayo 13, 2006

Know thyself - learn psychology

let's see.. the other 10 lifetraps:

Abandonment - The abandonment lifetrap is the feeling that the people you love will leave you, and you will end up emotionally isolated forever. Whether you feel people close to you will die, leave home forever, or abandon you because they prefer someone else, somehow you feel that you will be left alone. Because of this belief, you may cling to people close to you too much. Ironically, you end up pushing them away. You may get very upset or angry about even normal separations.
((Individual/s found to be guilty of this lifetrap: 2))

Mistrust and Abuse - The mistrust and abuse lifetrap is the expectation that people will hurt or abuse you in some way – that they will cheat, lie to, manipulate, humiliate, physically harm, or otherwise take advantage of you. If you have this lifetrap, you hide behind a wall of mistrust to protect yourself. You never let people get close. You are suspicious of other people’s intentions, and tend to assume the worst. You expect that the people you love will betray you (aww, how sad) either you avoid relationships altogether (uy may kilala ako!!), form superficial relationships with people who treat you badly and then feel angry and vengeful toward them.
((Guilty search: 4 persons found ---including myself))

Vulnerability - you live in fear that disaster is about to strike – whether natural (wahaha! Nagdidilim na ang langit! Magugunaw na ang mundo! Sea monster!!! Aaaaahh!), criminal, medical, or financial. You do not feel safe in the world – too bad for you. If you have this lifetrap, as a child you were made to feel that the world is a dangerous place.(uh oh) You were probably overprotected by your parents, who worried too much about your safety. Your fears are excessive and unrealistic, yet you let them control your life, and pour your energy into making sure that you are safe. Your fears may revolve around illness: having an anxiety attack, getting AIDS, or going crazy.
((Guilty search: 2 found))

Dependence - If you are caught in the Dependence lifetrap, you feel unable to handle everyday life in a competent manner without considerable help from others. You depend on others to act as a crutch and need constant support. When you are working as an adult, you shrink from acting on your own. Needless to say, this holds you back.
((Guilty search: 3? found))

Emotional Deprivation - Emotional deprivation is the belief that your need for love will never be met adequately by other people. (uyyy! Alam mo n kng cno ka.haha) You feel that no one truly cares for you or understands how you feel. (masama yan, magbago na kayo) You find yourself attracted to cold and ungiving people, or you are cold and ungiving yourself, leading you to form relationships that inevitably prove unsatisfying. You feel cheated, and you alternate being angry about it and feeling hurt and alone. Ironically, your anger just drives people further away, ensuring your continued deprivation. People with this lifetrap have a loneliness about them, a quality of emptiness, of emotional disconnection. These are the people who do not know what love is. =(
((Guilty search: 3 poor souls found))

Social exlusion Social exclusion involves your connection to friends and groups. It has to do with feeling isolated from the rest of the world, with feeling different. If you have this lifetrap, as a child you felt excluded by peers. You did not belong to a group of friends. Perhaps you had some unusual characteristic that made you feel different in some way. As an adult, you maintain your lifetrap mainly through avoidance. You avoid socializing in groups and making friends. You may feel that you are ugly, sexually undesirable, low in status, poor conversational skills, boring, or otherwise deficient. (waaaah!!! T_T tama na!!) It is not always apparent that you have this lifetrap. You may be comfortable in intimate settings or one-to-one relationships and then be anxious and aloof at parties, classes, meetings, or work. You have a restless quality, a quantity of looking for a place to belong.
((Guilty search: 2 found --including myself))

Defectiveness With defectiveness, you feel inwardly flawed and defective. You believe that you would fundamentally unlovable to anyone who got close enough to really know you. Your defectiveness would be exposed. As a child, you did not feel respected for who you were in your family. (sad ulet) Instead, you were criticized for your “flaws.” You blamed yourself - you felt unworthy of love.
((Guilty search: 5 found))

Unrelenting standards If you are in the Unrelenting standards lifetrap, you strive relentlessly to meet extremely high expectations of yourself. You place excessive emphasis on status, money, achievement, beauty, order, or recognition at the expense of happiness, pleasure, health, a sense of accomplishment, and satisfying relationships. You probably apply your rigid standards to other people as well and are very judgmental. When you were a child, you were expected to be the best, and you were taught that anything else was failure. (hala! Parang ako!hehe, yabang) You learned that nothing you did was quite good enough. (sigh...)
((Guilty search: 4 found – including myself))

Entitlement The final lifetrap, Entitlement, is associated with the ability to accept realistic limits in life. People who have this lifetrap feel special. (parang ikaw..tsk tsk) They insist that they be able to do, say, or have whatever they want immediately. They disregard what others consider reasonable, what is actually feasible, the time or patience usually required, and the cost to others. They have difficulty with self-discipline. Many of the people with this lifetrap were spoiled as children. As adults, they still get very angry when they do not get what they want. (sounds villainous)
((Guilty search: 2?))

Paunawa sa mga mambabasa: ang “search engine” na gnamit ng may-akda ay hindi ganoon ka-epektibo at accurate, at marapat lamang na isaalang-ala na wala sa intensiyon ng may-ari ng blog na ito ang mang-alipusta ng tao. =D Maraming salamat po.

Pahabol: ang mga textong ginamit ay hango sa handout na ibinigay ni Ma’am Ofreneo, aking psychology teacher.
Addistarted this journey at10:50 PM

Miyerkules, Mayo 10, 2006

Subjugation

oh.. recently, I figured out that I have this behavioral ?problem?...(uhm, i dunno how to put it). .something like a "lifetrap," as my psychology teacher put it. :)
I should really overcome it -- the lifetrap is called SUBJUGATION.
Subjugation - with subjugation, you sacrifice your own needs and desires for the sake of pleasing others or meeting their needs. You allow others to control you. You do this either out of guilt - that you hurt other people by putting yourself first - or fear that you will be punished or abandoned if you disobey. --so there, ako nga un..
AT YUNG IBANG LIFETRAPS... mejo d ko tnatanggap na malakas ung "tama" ko dun sa iba pang lifetraps eh..pero, ntatawa ako..kc kilala ko ung may mga ganun..hehe..
Addistarted this journey at9:42 PM